Children are excellent observers and listeners. Their social skills develop through imitation of others. Our little ones might accidentally hear swear words from family members, peers, or while watching movies or shows not meant for children.

2-3-year-olds usually repeat overheard swear words without understanding their meaning. They do this intuitively, in situations similar to those previously observed. If a father drops keys and starts swearing out of frustration, it’s not hard to guess what a preschooler will do when their toy falls to the ground. In such a situation, either outrage or, worse, laughter from adults will give swearing an additional dimension. It will make the child use vulgar words to draw attention. In preschool-aged children, a sense of humor begins to develop. For 3-4-year-olds, words like "butt" or "poop" are extremely funny. Although it’s hard to call them swear words, most parents find their use by a child troublesome and embarrassing. The comforting news is that this is a relatively short and transient period.

What if, however, our child starts using swear words?

Ignoring the Behavior Although a potent swear word from a small child can be shocking, try not to react. This method works best when a child uses a swear word for the first time and doesn’t fully understand its meaning.

Honest Conversation If a child starts using swear words more often, the best solution is to have a conversation. Explain what the word means that they just used. Explain that swear words reflect the personal culture of the person who utters them. Give examples from cartoons, children’s shows. Ask if they have ever heard such rude words there. Clearly state that you don’t like it when your child swears.

Leading by Example If we expect our child to use beautiful language, we must be careful about our own vocabulary. Remember, children learn from us! None of our arguments will work if we use swear words ourselves.

Age-Appropriate Content

We can’t shield children from hearing swear words in public places. However, we have a significant influence on what movies, cartoons, and programs they watch and what games they play. The content should always be age-appropriate. Sometimes frequent swearing by a child, combined with other manifestations of verbal or physical aggression, is related to deeper emotional issues. In such cases, it’s worth seeking the opinion of a child psychologist.

Pedagogue Klaudia Sokołowska-Baryś for Marioinex Education Photo: @allentaylor