Do adults make mistakes? At first glance, the answer to this question seems simple – everyone makes mistakes. However, when we ask children, most of them almost automatically respond – no, they don’t make mistakes. Why is that? Why do children perceive us as infallible? How does this affect their self-esteem?

It's often hard for adults to admit their own ignorance or mistake. They fear their authority will be undermined. After all, they are supposed to be a role model for the child, to introduce them to the fascinating world, to teach.

What hidden message do children receive? Adults are infallible, they know and can do literally everything. Therefore, in their eyes, making a mistake or not knowing becomes a reason for shame. It's no wonder that a large portion of younger school-aged children do not actively participate in lessons, are reluctant to speak in class, and are afraid to approach the blackboard. In most cases, this is reflected in later adult life.

Meanwhile, the attitude of important adults – parents, teachers – can make them start to see their mistakes as a way of learning, discovering solutions, seeking information. For this to be possible, a child must know that every human being makes mistakes, does not know, and cannot do everything.

How can we support the development of positive self-esteem in our child? Remember that the child observes and unconsciously imitates our behaviors. Do not be ashamed to admit to a mistake or ignorance. Let's propose to check the information together with the child using available sources. Treat it as an additional way of acquiring knowledge. Do not fear losing authority, on the contrary – children feel comfortable in the company of people who are sincere and understand them. Encourage the child to express their own opinion. Show them what a discussion is, what arguments are, and the culture of speech. At the same time, treat the child as an equal interlocutor. Assure them that someone's mistake is not a reason for ridicule.

Confidence and lack of shame in case of a mistake will ensure that our child copes with stressful situations. They will willingly and without embarrassment correct their error and will be able to face potential unfavorable comments from peers.

Pedagogue Klaudia Sokołowska-Baryś for Marioinex Education